quick warning: I don't always proofread this late in the evening, I was never a good English student, I am an artist. I type what my mind is thinking, so forgive me for any errors or if i repeat myself. =)
You will learn that I LOVE visual analogies. I will often come up with things (often in nature) to explain life situations. When I was in high school I often said that relationships are one giant river. No I am not going to use the cliche "fish in the sea" analogy. I said that at age 15 I came to a river and saw rushing water. The river was terrifying to me, and I didn't know how to get across to the other side to finish my journey in life. Then I saw stepping stones. So i stepped on the first stone. It seemed sturdy for a bit, but then it was so small and rounded that I quickly slipped off, so i jumped to the next stone. This one was more flat, but still not sturdy enough to hold me up if I lost balance. After so many stones i figured by the end of my journey across the river the last stone would be the sturdiest rock and one that i could depend on for anything along the rest of my journey. So i would then pick it up and keep it for the rest of my life (symbolizing marriage). While the analogy made sense, the ex boyfriends did not like it that i made them sound like "stepping stones"! Ha ha! Of course i didn't mean it in such a disrespectful way at all, especially since i find stepping stones beautiful and very important in nature.
But to continue onto this Blog:
Another Element to this pathway of healing is the Dream Compass. When you are lost in the woods you use a compass, right? Well when you are lost in life, you use the Dream Compass. Only your dreams are what keep you going in life and if you pay attention to them, they will help you find the way. A regular compass has 4 directions: North, South, East and West.... or as you may have learned in grade school (Never Eat Sour Watermelons, or Slimy Worms! ha ha!). The Dream compass also has 4 directions. Happiness, Money, Love and Peace.
Money???? Why MONEY??? THAT IS MATERIALISTIC!!!!!
Yes, yes it is. But unfortunately we live in a material world.....(and I am a material girl..............yea couldn't help myself there)
Seriously though - we live in a materialistic world. This is reality. In a world where money didn't matter, all we would hope for is happiness, love and peace (health falls under peace). But here is why money becomes an important part. you need food to live, you need money for food. you need shelter, you need money for rent, or mortgage. then you need to pay for the power to stay on and water to run, need a job to pay for all of that? Then you need transportation to get to the job. Whether it is a bike, car or a bus ticket, you need money to pay for it. If you have a comfortable amount of money, then you are not stressed. if you are like me then you live paycheck to paycheck, and constantly worry about what bill you can afford, and what bill will have to be late. Also if you have enough left over to buy the good groceries, or just stick to Ramen Noodles and bananas for a week. But too much money makes you unhappy. P.Diddy knew what he meant when he said Mo' Money Mo' Problems. So there is a sweet spot, just enough money to live comfortably is all you need to keep stress away. lack of stress makes it easier to be happy.
Peace is inner peace with yourself, with your neighbors, loved ones, stranger and even enemies. This one is hard to obtain because you often have to work hard on forgiving and forgetting things. And if you are like me, that can take years to get over the past. However if you are like my hubby, it just rolls right off your back, and you are lucky! Peace can also include health, mentally and physically. Your body cannot be at peace until it is healthy - however i feel that if you are ill you can find inner peace by keeping optimism high and seeing the beauty in what life has given you. Make lemonade out of lemons. Like i mentioned, Health can be a mental thing too. You must find peace within your life in order to be truly happy.
Love is the third one and most important. You must love yourself in order to love others. You do not have to find a mate, or have others love you. Only worry about yourself and your love for others. Love the Earth, Love your spirituality, whatever. If you are religious, love your deity, and keep your heart in it and you will find love.
ALL ROADS POINT NORTH - or with my compass, all roads point to Happiness! You need the first 3 directions in order to find true happiness.
Which Direction is the hardest for you to find? Mine is Peace, I need inner peace and I have too many cuts that have not healed, I think I need to heal this before I can even love myself completely.
I think mine is love. And it's not because I think I am not loved. I know that I am. But I hate feeling alone. I hate feeling like I am always going to be alone, even though I know deep down in my heart that I won't be. Sometimes it stresses me out to see everyone else where I want to be and I have to remind myself that it just isn't the right timing for me yet. So then that can mess around with me feeling peace. I hope that made some sort of sense.
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